It is without saying that an intentional balanced in your life on and off the road comes with a lot of practice, self-control, and discipline. Gaining interpersonal skills with your tour mates and with your relationships outside touring, and how you maintain a steady healthy life in a not-so-steady healthy kind of career is the key to being at ease with your mind. Let’s face it, touring is pretty extreme. You are gone for a long period of time and then suddenly you’re back home. Even if you haven’t toured yet, you can imagine what it’s like. It is difficult.
Being on Tour vs. Being at Home
When you are on tour, you are constantly active and busy. You’re out seeing new places every day and experiencing new things. When you’re back home, life becomes sedentary. It is way more leisurely and way less regimented, and it’s very hard to try and emulate that rigid fast-paced schedule at home. However, being at home is great because you get to spend time with your loved ones and that is a good reason to be at home but on the flip side, you are touring because -well, hopefully- you love this lifestyle. As we always say, touring is addicting, and once you get addicted you kind of need to see new places, new people, and have new experiences. Once you start touring, these things become a big part of your life and you look forward to doing them all over again.
However, when you are on tour, you might also feel like you’re missing out on life back home. You might face internal conversations in which you find yourself questioning what you’re missing. We all miss the good and bad back home while we’re on tour and we just have to accept it. Things can happen when you’re out on tour, you should try to be optimistic and do what you got to do.
We can describe the feeling of coming back home as a shock and one of the best ways to try to handle it is to try to exist a little more intentionally relaxed even though touring is exciting. When you do come home, try to find the same joy you find in touring with all these things that pushes you daily as simple as grocery shopping. Everything to you should be a kind of meditation in that regard. Try to find that balance because what you do on the road is truly based on being in the present and you have to be able to relate to that at home. It takes really good discipline, but you got this.
Dealing with Anxiety
The more active you are, the less anxious you are. You have so many distractions on tour doing what you love because you’re always on the go and it’s very easy not to think about things that make you anxious.
When you have more idle time back home, the things that make you anxious are more present – the realization of the importance of the things you do and how they affect your family can feel a lot heavier.
If this is the case for you:
- Try to practice gratitude – there are a million things to be grateful for and it helps you to be less anxious and less impatient.
- The busier you are with the things you enjoy helps you to be more present and more grateful for what you have in the moment.
- You could try writing a list of the things that you love to do, and you can go reference those when you’re feeling anxious so that you can snap yourself out of those moments.
- Call a friend that is always down to talk about this kind of stuff. The more you can communicate about it, the better.
- Find therapeutic things: meditate, read books, take walks…
- Knowing what to do and knowing what not to do; knowing what behaviors are negative, and knowing what things you can do that are good for you is the process you should dig into and figure out.
Communication is the Key
We have said it before, and we will say it again: Communication is the key!
When you’re out on tour, things are not always perfect. You might face problems with the people you share the tour bus with. Things get heated if you do not take the hard step to communicate. Sometimes there are hard things to talk about but if you talk about them, you can avoid big blowouts.
Problems get bigger because of a lack of communication, so if you have an issue with someone, address it in a calm manner. Tell them that you need to talk; go for a walk or have a cup of coffee together. If you maintain healthy communication in this manner, not only you’ll gain interpersonal communication skills but also you will prevent the problems from repeating over and over again.